My girlfriend and I decided to go to a local Italian restaurant that we sometimes go to eat at during our regular evening dates after work. Being in our late teens we try to spend as much time together as possible. It wasn’t my favorite restaurant but it was still okay. When we arrived it hadn’t opened yet so we had a few soft drinks in the bar before passing through to the restaurant.
The problems started almost immediately. We approached a waitress who seemed to be cowering away from us. She was definitely new and very shy from the looks of her. Instead we were taken to a table by another waitress. As we sat down into the very crammed area I heard what sounded like a shriek; I shrugged it off. But a moment later a couple with their teenage son in a wheelchair comes to sit down at the table next to us. The boy was clearly mentally damaged but he wouldn’t shut up yelling. He would constantly yell and shout and throw things around and bang on the table. I was trying to have a romantic evening with my girlfriend but this was impossible due to this shrieking disabled kid next to us.
I know I should be understanding about this but I was loosing my patience fast. When we had finished our meals the bloody kid starts throwing the menus around yelling madly. As we passed I shot the family my coldest glare which seemed to shock the mother as the parents did nothing to stop their son.
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How dare that family have the audacity to take their disabled son out in public to a place, knowing that you had a romantic evening planned! That is just the height of rudeness and cockblocking. I’ll bet they purposely did something to him in utero to create this disability, just so that many years later they could ruin your evening. All those years of caring for their disbaled son, to heartache, the yearning for a “normal” child like everyone else, the wondering what will happen to him after they pass, all that was a mere charade as they awaited their true plan, ruining your romantic evening. I’m sure that glare you shot them must have really put them in their place. They’ll probably just chain their disabled son up in the attic or basement. (Not sure how their house is arranged). No more out in public for him…he’s obviously subhuman, and was putting on a pretend act to ruin your evening.
You are a poor excuse for a human being. How dare you write something like this. I hope you never have to endure the pain and anguish of a disabled child, and never have to withstand the stares of others, or the disaproving glares of horny teenagers who think the world owes them. I hope there is a special place reserved in hell for you.
You are a jack ass!!!
Words cannot describe how disgusted I am by this post or how uncompassionate you seem to be to those around you. Disabled and handicapped people deserve every right to have a normal life and dinner out, just like you do. And that "delightful" cold glare you gave the mother, I hope your mother never find out what a coldhearted son she's raised. I seriously hope you never have children given your horrible attitude. And if you do, I hope you don't have a child who needs an understanding and compassionate parent.
P.S. Get your rocks off BEFORE going to a restaurant…jackass
Seems like you upset a few posters. You have to feel for the family as well as the owner. If the owner didn't seat them there was likely a lawyer standing outside in between chasing ambulances just waiting for a discrimination suit. I'm sure the family was embarassed by their son's conduct so you have to put yourselves in their shoes as well. Also ignore the posters. You'll learn as you move closer towards adulthood.
I agree with the other posters, though not with ps's last statement…do NOT ignore the posters. One of two things happened:
1) This really happened and you are an ass OR
2) This never happened and you are a trol…and an asshole.
So, either way you are an asshole, the question is how much of an asshole. I sincerely hope you are just a trolling asshole…
I have to agree with Hugh, you are a poor excuse for a human being and you have no compassion at all. You really do need to grow up and learn that the world does not revolve around you.
Hello everyone
This is the author of this story. I would like to express my most sincere apologies to you all. What I put on there was wrong and I am now really regretting it. I guess I was having a bad day and I had no right to say all that. I hope you will all forgive me and once again I am so sorry. Thank you for reading this
You are still a douche despite your apology. You are probably a middle class frat boy who majored in psychology or business but still lacks a few credits to graduate. Your date was probably a mindless booze hound with poor taste. And I know you're a fucking smelly, big-nosed, dumbo-eared Brit. Have a little compassion. My brother is autistic. He's never had the chance to go on a date, or speak, or fall in love or anything else people like you take for granted. I hope you have an accident that paralyzes you from the neck down. Maybe that will teach you some compassion or at least manners. I can't believe you gave that boy's family an evil stare. I hope it occurs soon…your impending accident I mean.
Lets rally to get a law passed to have all the disabled children shot, just so you can have a romantic evening with your girlfriend….
Sounds like a fun idea right!
Who cares if the kid was autistic? If he was yelling, banging on the table and throwing menus then he is a disturbance. I feel for you if the autistic child in question is related to you but frankly, that's not my cross to bear. I want to eat in peace and could give two shits about your drama until it interferes with me. Stoically ignoring the autistic fit being thrown because you want to eat out is not my problem. If the kid can't behave, don't take him out. Perhaps this kid should have asked to have been moved but I don't buy you all beating up on him because he didn't want to have dinner next to this distraction.
Hey JC- You're the idiot, especially with that handle. I sympathize with the parents and the poster apologized .You're a moron.
The poster and his gal should have just left the place. It appears that folks that just want to have a nice dinner and cocktails always have to second their rights.
thats sad that you would say such things. he has a mental condition, he probably was just trying to express some emotion, they have no other choice. I accept your apology. Mule how ever. your an asshole. it doesn't matter if its family or not. would you want to be glared and and made fun of for a family member you have no control over? especially if he was a teenager. their equally as strong as "normal" teens so if you want to try to hold their arms down andmake them stop yelling when then cannot, be my guest. burn in hell.
I have a family member that I have no control over. We don't take her out to eat as we view that to be rude to other people. What's more, I've worked with the developmentally disabled and can tell you from first hand experience that you're not doing them any favors by making them a public spectacle. When I go out to eat, I really don't care that your life is hard because you have an autistic child. All things being equal, I wish you would stay home so I can eat in peace. If you want to be a rude ass by bringing the teenager that you know is probably going to act out into the public eye then you shouldn't be surprised to be stared at. It's like bringing a porn star to church.
Yep! But try not to ruin everyone's holier-than-thou attitudes. I just know they would react perfectly to every uncomfortable situation, every single time.
You know what? Life happens. We plan to go to the beach and then it rains. You plan an unforgettable meal for your partner and when it's coming out of the oven,you drop it and the cat ends up having the unforgettable meal. You plan to spend the whole weekend studying for your finals, and then you come down with the flu and can't read a word. You anticipate a nice evening at an Italian Restaurant ,and all of a sudden you have to put up with the glare of a spoiled teenager who can't accept the fact that we all have the same rights.. Such is life.
Did anyone ever considered that the reason the family was there as soon as the restaurant opened, was to cause as little problems for the other patrons as possible? I have a handicapped son and on the rare occasions when we go out to eat, we go early when there are few patrons. No one wants their child to become a "public spectacle", but hiding them at home is not the way to get other people to accept them either. The original poster could have asked to be moved, left early or just been grateful that he wasn't in their shoes and finished his meal.
The original poster was a teenager and apologized . And the result was a continuing stream of hate from a number of posters. People here have wished him paralysis and other nice things. I think the "Loud Disabled Kid" is more stable than a bunch of the posters on this story.
These people are fucking horrible.
Wow. incredible story!
You should keep posting the other ways humanity upsets your 'plans'.
FYI, a romantic evening doesn't happen in a restaurant douche. It starts at home, maybe with a cheese tray….then a chocolate fondue…. But nevermind, you think being seated at a restaurant is the start of a romantic evening (which at your age means getting sloppy in bed, and nothing else). Next time hit a McD and race home as she finishes her fries and soda. The result will be the same.
You are a class act.
I have a sister with CP, and I agree with Parent. When we go out as a family, we choose to avoid the rush, in order to relieve other diners of potential meltdowns, which no one has any warning or control over. Further, seeing as these are teenagers, and this is their place to go for "regular evening dates," I doubt it is the typical place for a romantic night out. If this family chose a restaurant that is more casual, and avoided the rush hour, they clearly were trying to be accommodating to both the other patrons, and possibly a child that is still working on his/her ability to respond well to public places.
The nasty postings have gone on long enough, but for the author of this post, let me say that my family loves to use these moments as teaching moments, not only for my sister, that needs to learn acceptable behavior in public (it is a lifelong learning process, but a very rewarding one), but also for other patrons who don't have much exposure to those with disabilities. Although not always the case, for my sister, meltdowns go hand in hand with anxiety, so instead of angry glances that gets mom on edge (which rubs off to child), give a smile. Make eye contact. Caring glances go much further than angry ones.
That was a well-thought out post nns740.
I was one of those angry previous posters.
My nephew, 17 suffers from FAS, and I don't think he understands what was done to him. One second he's a normal kid, the next (without warning) he is, ah, difficult. I know his heart is honest and he wants to do the right thing.
His uncle Rob (that would be me) enjoys taking him out, and he seems to respond well to certain types of 'parental' control.
Nevertheless, there are times when I find it a challenge to be in public, even though I get to take him home to his grandmother. The OP was just proving how shallow we have become as a society, that we cannot somehow tolerate differences without getting offended by them.
My nephew has been learning Tai Kwon Do, is coaching a girls soccer team (I know the other boys his age are jealous, even though he has turned out to be a very good coach), and has found that gainful employment – i.e. access to earned income – can be a good thing.
What the OP fails to remember, and what has taken me 17 years to teach my nephew in sound-bite meetings, is that the world occurs around you whether you like it or not. It occurs around you, but that doesn't mean you are at the center of it.
Peace.
Your message is clear and you are right. The poster himself had already apologized but the stream of venom continued. The poster was obviously a teenager , was wrong and admitted it. Lesson learned (and how!). You made your valid point without spewing a stream of vindictive hateful comments, unlike numerous others. Thank you. Well done.
the people who replied with such nasty hatred filled insults need to grow up just as much as the original poster did. seriously, grow up people! he realized his mistake and apologized, which first off, he did NOT have to do, and second, i think it was very big of him to realize the error of his ways and learn a lesson from it. is this how you people teach your kid right from wrong? scream, berate, and act like complete jackasses? really!
I have a right to a dinner with no disturbance ! This dumb mother should had an abortion at the time her doctor found out it would be a retard.
Hello, this is the author of the story again, I take back that apology, and want to say fuck you to everyone.
I'm with you on that. The kid was a huge disturbance and follow diners do not want to listen to that noise. Sorry for the family's difficulties but theree is no reason to visit that upon others.
I hear you. The responses you got were waaaayyy over the line. Too bad people are cowards behind their keyboards.
The OP did the right thing by apologising which I believe was a truly brave and goodhearted thing to do. Some people like the disabled child in the story need that extra bit of compassion and love. We are born as we are and are all human no matter what.
What a bunch of sorry pieces of shit most of the commentors are, I'm sure their kids are equally assholic and think that every restaurant is Chuck E. Cheese or something. Disabled or not, this kid was being an asshole and annoying people so he should have been kicked out.
My kids are like that too, and I hate them. We eat all of our dinners at mcdonalds.
Nice try cumguzzler but I don't have kids.
Shoot!
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So basically, it's ok for retarded kids to disturb other people in public settings because they can't control themselves at all.
If the parents can bring their disaster of a son and have him chimpout I should be able to tell it to stfu. My defense ? I'm not retarded.
i have already posted here but honestly i have served more special needs children that are more well behaved than "normal" children. yes there is a limit but i think most posters agree that the original poster was a young selfish tool.
I agree that just because someone is different doesn't mean they should be discriminated against. His parents have the right to take him out just as anyone would. Just to play devil's advocate, though:
How is it fair to let this person scream and throw things about? That wouldn't be tolerated if the kid WASN'T disabled. Isn't that discrimination also?
Newsflash………there is no such thing as a romantic dinner in a family style restaurant !
You guys suck.
If this happened to me I'd also be upset and move tables.
You can feel sorry for the kid without wanting to be bothered, annoyed, or harassed by him.
I don't think this poster was mean at all. If the child hadn't had a mental problem most of you would have agreed something should have been done about it.
And something should have.
The manager should have had the poster moved to another table as soon as the screeching started.
You go out to eat, not to have your ears blown out.
ii agree that if it WAS NOT a special needs child the parents should have stepped in. however since they came in right when the restaurant opened, which was off of peak times, the family was trying to be considerate when they tried to have an evening out together. if the poster was that irritated then he should have asked to be moved instead of shooting dirty looks to the parents of a special needs child. when someone is special needs they don't understand societal norms or decorum. their intent is not to disturb, unlike a drunk or your run of the mill douchebag. however because of the age of the poster i wonder how bad the child was being. wait until he turns 21 and goes into Dennys at 2 am and acts a fool.
I agree with the poster. Those parents shouldn’t take that thing out in public if it’s going to yell and scream and disturb everyone. Sorry and all but those things are a waste of resources and should never have been allowed to survive. Makes me sick.
he should have asked to move then. and if the child was truly unruly the parents may should have taken him outside to calm down. however that is not always an option with special needs kids. and perhaps they were trying to socialize him and get him used to being in public. i'm sorry Mule and any one else who thinks like him, but the parents never get to dine in peace. they went to a restaurant right when it opened which was probably off peak hours out of consideration, only to be rebuked by a child. shame on you people. i work in restaurants and have served many handicapped people and would never blame that family.
You are a disgrace and a fucking douche bag piece of shit loser. You are a sick, hateful person and I pray that you never ever have children. And if you do, I truly hope you get all this right back in your face. Karma is a bitch and I hope you get it good.
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