Server Stands by Table Entire Time

June 20, 2012

in Server Stories

About two years ago I was dining at an Asian restaurant in San Antonio with my mother and younger brother. The food was delicious but a few things bothered me. First, the waitress stood right by our table the entire time and never left our side. That was nice when it came to requesting refills, but then there comes the second oddity. The waitress offered to refill my mother and brother’s glasses, but she never asked if I needed one. I always had to speak up and try to get her attention for a refill. This definitely wasn’t a super terrible experience, but it did leave me feeling slightly odd afterwards. She was Asian, did that have something to do with it?

{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

Orca June 30, 2012 at 10:02 pm

Omg what an ungrateful racist biatch you are she should have sat in your drinks if you had a problem you should have said something


Wuffle Spring July 1, 2012 at 3:24 pm

She wasn't being racist. She was simply asking if there is something in a different culture that might account for the odd behavior of the waitress. She said NOTHING to come across as racist. Obviously she hasn't much knowledge of Asian cultures and was unsure if the behavior of the waitress would be considered normal. Lay off whatever you are drinking to make you blast someone for no reason.


Ralph July 14, 2012 at 2:48 pm

Wuffle, I agree with you. Nothing was said as racist, and I have made some small errors with ettiquite when dealing with forign people. (nothing major) so I understand why she asked a question like that. I think that Orca's problem is that people have become so P.C. that they automatically condemn people for anything that may be (even slightly) taken as offensive.

Lets get some thicker skin folks. I'm not saying you have to take abuse, but sometimes (not in this case) the people are ignorant, or insensitive and you shouldnt waste your time or effort, or your blood pressure worrying about them.


Rachel November 1, 2012 at 9:14 am

I’ve had this experience before in Asian restaurants, both in the U.S. and in Shanghai China.


Jason April 9, 2013 at 6:10 am

This is common "high-end" service in Chinese/Japanese restaurants in Asia.


Jessi April 4, 2016 at 11:58 pm

As an expat living in China, I can offer that this sort of behavior is expected as the service standard here. it's a little weird at first but it's really just a cultural difference.


Kristie November 16, 2017 at 2:35 am

Racist didn't cross my mind but high end service was one of the first things that did. My God it is scary how uneducated people go straight to the negative.


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